Pick Up Lines?

Oftentimes, as a man who is perhaps struggling come up with the "right words" to say when you approach women you might become tempted to use a "pick up line" or "opener" that is much more clever or brilliant than anything that you ever thought of.

After all, it is relatively easy to spot something that could potentially work on a woman especially when you are struggling to find the right things to say and they often do work.

However, using someone else's pick up lines or openers does come with an unintended side effect that you may or may not be aware of.

Assuming that you aren't consciously aware of the side effect yet let me go ahead and tell you...

Using the words of another when approaching a woman kills your best chance at having a genuine connection with a woman who would really be good for you and makes keeping her that much more difficult in the long run.

In other words, when you first meet a woman your are laying down the foundation of the relationship that the two of you will have and it is all built on a lie.

Now, if all you are looking for are short term flings then really none of this matter because you aren't planning on staying long enough to even notice the side effects.

Yet, for those of you who are going into this for the long haul, it is important that you understand that the words coming out of your mouth be authentic and a real representation of you rather than something that you know works at picking up women.

At least, if you want to have an empowering relationship with a woman where you can use your energy to grow rather than to maintain a unhealthy relationship that you created because of the lies you built it on.